GOOD PARENTING

Most of us become parents by simple biological process. But more often we are not mentally, physically or emotionally prepared to become good parents.

Ideally “GOOD PARENTING” starts from the time couple decides to have a child.

The couple should have “गर्भपूर्व संस्कार “& “गर्भ संस्कार “All of us know the story of Abhimanu learning how to enter into “चक्रव्युव” while still in mother’s womb. This proves that if the couple & especially the mother are happy throughout her pregnancy the physical & mental development of the child is excellent. Mother should listen to devotional music, should read devotional books to have well ‘’संस्कार’’ on the fetus. It has been scientifically proved that the fetus loves Santur & especially राग यमन.

When the couple decides to have a child mother should start folic acid tablets which are essential for development of nervous system of the fetus. Similarly, if the relationship between couple is good, that also helps in proper physical & mental development of the child in uterus & during childhood.

Certain Dos & Don’ts for good parents

·         Accept your child as the wonderful person he/ she is

·         Be a good role model in all you say & do

·         Communicate respectfully & listen attentively

·         Discipline fairly, firmly & with love

·         Encourage good eating habits

·         Find ways to get & stay fit together

·         Give chores that build responsibility                                                                

·         Help your child learn healthy ways to manage anger & stress

·         Instill respect for people & property

·         Join parent organization in school

·         Laugh together & enjoy each others company                                                                                                       

·         Keep your promises up  or don’t make them 

·         Family rules & enforces them consistently           

·         Never use physical force on your child

·         Offer help whenever needed

·         Praise your child for achievements & efforts quickly stop your child from any harmful activities

·         Read together & make reading fun

·         Show patience & remember that nobody is perfect

·         Teach health & safety rules and good character traits

·         Use every opportunity to say ‘i love you’ & show your love value your child’s thoughts and opinions.

·         Wait until you cool down before disciplining your child

·         Tell your child about the value of education

·         You make a difference in your child’s life, so parent with pride

·         Zero in practicing good parenting

·         Skills every day

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